Is generosity demanded?
I hear you. My family is sick of hearing me holler at the radio, "You can't have my old car, I'm using it!"
Passing the plate though, is one of the few elements left in our touch-free covid world where we still physically hand something around. Am I the only one who feels a communion in keeping the plate aloft and handing something to the person next to me?
My economic privilege prevents shame from being my overriding plate experience, so maybe my point here is moot. I wish it was normal and okay for someone to put a quarter in the plate, if that is what they can give, and feel it is enough.
As always, you piqued my curiosity and I found this article about the origins of passing the plate.