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Becky Zimmerman's avatar

Learning how to deal with chronic stress in a healthy way is something that used to be foreign to me. I knew what stress was, but I more or less dealt with each stressor as it came. The longer term stressors were more challenging, but they still had a term limit. I first experienced chronic stress in the months following 9/11, when I had kids ranging from 3 to 9 years old. For their sake I had to find a way to balance keeping up with the news, and keeping our home life going with as little overt anxiety as possible. Fast forward to more recent years, and it seems like the trajectory of our country is such that a large majority of us - on "both sides" - are feeling CHRONIC stress. How does this affect time for me now? I'm finding that the only way for me to experience time calmly is to be in the present moment. And for me that means NOT reading content from writers who are constantly projecting/predicting the future - this may happen, that may happen, this may happen because such-n-such happened today. Not helpful! Planning for the future is always a good idea, but worrying about it just doesn't get me anywhere. Curiously, I currently experience the most anxiety (time-wise) at the beginning of our Sunday services. I don't care when it ends, but we have more or less constant tech issues, and people are walking back and forth at the front still checking things at 10:30 (our start time). Lately, I have just closed my eyes starting around 10:25...

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Carol C Reiman's avatar

Yes, this resonates. The energy it takes to question why, to make sense of an onslaught, one that is designed to have that effect, to incapacitate, to delay, to impede action. One activist said that she sustains herself by taking a break when needed, connecting with dear ones who are supportive, then getting back in. A speaker at a UU service in the Hudson Valley had the children try to say tongue twisters as quickly as possible (which is when people mess up), then spike about the need to prepare carefully and slowly so that one can be effective. Sometimes I find myself wanting, needing to hibernate but also finding energy, thriving in connection, with slowing the pace, noticing the sweetness along the way, the birdsong, the yellowing weeping willow, the kind, fun interaction between parent and child, the dog who responds to me on the sidewalk...

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